How was this not brought to light earlier? Almost 60 years ago? I know abusive families keep secrets buried a long time, I lived it myself. My dad sexually abused my sisters and it was almost 30 years before it was brought to light. It messed up family bonds, as my father tried to blame it away on others. He made amends and stayed with my mom, my sisters forgave him, but it made us uncomfortable having around our grandchildren. It is hard to build back a trust that should never have been broken.
I’m so sorry for what your sisters went through and I can’t imagine the process of forgiveness, and the pain that lasts forever. RE: Surely people knew, I thought about that too. And of course they did, I mean Huerta knew and she was the co-founder of the movement. I do wonder if she had handled it differently if it could have saved those young girls. I’m guessing she wonders that too… I also don’t know about the family and how much they knew. I’ve seen family secrets buried deep so the next generation doesn’t know. I don’t think it’s healthy but I know it happens. I’m so sorry for the pain your father caused, for the generational trauma. I remember talking to one of my son’s friends at a public school event when they were in 6th grade. His dad had been abused by his father, he shared with me. And he was very conscious, speaking about it, that his dad was a cycle breaker. He was teaching him to be very different. That young man is one of the kindest loveliest people I know. I thought about how open they were about it. It was so different and in some ways it taught this young man how to be healthy in his relationships. I hope that even though it’s 60 years late it sparks a conversation that could change our future. It’s the only hope I can find in this story. And I’m so very sorry about your sisters and the trauma your family experienced.
I just couldn’t stop thinking about and felt like there’s a conversation that’s not happening that should in the aftermath. That’s my only hope. That even if the story is late to come out, it helps break cycles.
How was this not brought to light earlier? Almost 60 years ago? I know abusive families keep secrets buried a long time, I lived it myself. My dad sexually abused my sisters and it was almost 30 years before it was brought to light. It messed up family bonds, as my father tried to blame it away on others. He made amends and stayed with my mom, my sisters forgave him, but it made us uncomfortable having around our grandchildren. It is hard to build back a trust that should never have been broken.
I’m so sorry for what your sisters went through and I can’t imagine the process of forgiveness, and the pain that lasts forever. RE: Surely people knew, I thought about that too. And of course they did, I mean Huerta knew and she was the co-founder of the movement. I do wonder if she had handled it differently if it could have saved those young girls. I’m guessing she wonders that too… I also don’t know about the family and how much they knew. I’ve seen family secrets buried deep so the next generation doesn’t know. I don’t think it’s healthy but I know it happens. I’m so sorry for the pain your father caused, for the generational trauma. I remember talking to one of my son’s friends at a public school event when they were in 6th grade. His dad had been abused by his father, he shared with me. And he was very conscious, speaking about it, that his dad was a cycle breaker. He was teaching him to be very different. That young man is one of the kindest loveliest people I know. I thought about how open they were about it. It was so different and in some ways it taught this young man how to be healthy in his relationships. I hope that even though it’s 60 years late it sparks a conversation that could change our future. It’s the only hope I can find in this story. And I’m so very sorry about your sisters and the trauma your family experienced.
Thank you so much for your article on abuse!
Thank you!
I just couldn’t stop thinking about and felt like there’s a conversation that’s not happening that should in the aftermath. That’s my only hope. That even if the story is late to come out, it helps break cycles.